I am many things in life: wife, mother, friend, sister, daughter. I want to talk about another role which I have played for the last five years of my life. I have been a member of the local chapter of the MOMS club. What is a MOMS club you ask? First let me give you a little back story.
We moved to this area back in 2007. Back home we decided that I would give being a stay at home mother, to our then two children a try. It was quite an adjustment, I must say. I had worked since I was 17 years old.
Then one day out of the blue, my husband came home and said he had been offered a promotion. The catch was we had to move to another state. Now some people would see this as an exciting opportunity, and I did too actually. But you have to understand that I had lived in that small town for 29 years. I had grown up and went to school there. It was the kind of town where you knew everyone. All of our family was there. I had two small children and now I would have to leave all of the friends, family and support behind. I remember crying over this “great news.”
We packed up our little family and kissed everyone goodbye. Life was taking us in a new directions. It was exciting and scary, but we were ready. We settled into our new home, in our new town. My husband had a job to do. I on the other hand, wasn’t quite sure what I was supposed to do. I had two small children. I had no friends here. I had no routines yet, no favorite grocery store, no children for my kids to play with. With my husband working to support us everyday, it was now my job to create a life for us here. But how?
Some of our neighbors were very welcoming. That made things easier. But as a mother of two small children, I needed women who could relate. Women who were experiencing the same new world that I was. Someone suggested that I join the MOMS Club. MOMS stand for Moms Offering Moms Support and that is exactly what I did. I joined the MOMS club.
In this club I have met some of the most helpful, selfless women that I have ever known. They do exactly what the name suggests, they support one another. Having two more children after we moved here, I have continued to stay in the club for over five years now. Because of this, I have met a lot of friends through the years. I value these friendships and I want to publicly tell these women that you helped me get through one of the hardest transitions of my life. I feel so much love for you all. I continue to make new friends through the club, even still today.
If you find yourself in the same situation that I was, I strongly recommend that you search out your local chapter. They are all over the United States. Not only can you find new friends for your children and take them to fun new activities, but you can also get that much-needed mom-to-mom time, as well. It is all about surrounding yourself with people who understand exactly what you are going through.
I love the club so much that I have been on the board for two years now. My term is coming to an end as new officer elections are upon us. Next year three of my four children will be in big school, as number three starts kindergarten. The pressures of school and extracurricular activities these days are tremendous. After much thought and consideration, I have decided not to renew my membership this year.
It make me sad to even say that, this is like my family. These are the women who opened their arms to me all those years ago and helped show me the way. They have taught me so much about being a mother. Through their examples and strengths, they
make me strive to be a better mother. They have also been there to help lift my spirit, at times when I felt like the worst mother in the world. We all have those moments. This is a beautiful group of women.
As I step aside and move on to the next phase of my life, I leave a spot open for you. The women who is new to an area and struggling to find her way. The women who has left every thing she has even known to start a new life with her family. Or the woman who has her first baby, or second baby and could use some support and encouragement. Find a great group of women, you will never regret it.
All women need great girlfriends. It is how we are wired. We need our ladies. Husbands are great, but girlfriends just get us. I have no doubt that the relationships that I have made in this club will continue on, as we move through new chapters of our lives.
Now it is time for the next chapter of my life. I am officially a mother of several elementary school aged children. So tell me, is there a women’s group for mothers of children who take third grade math? Seriously though, that is not the same math that we learned, right? Come one people! I need a group!!!